1. Start 2016 off with a new daily exercise listing 3 events that you’re grateful for and why. See what  happens as a result of creating this new attitude of gratitude. The small change can have major impact on your daily life and the people around you!

The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work

41JT8EK0dsL._AA160_Shawn Achor in his new Book, The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work

 

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  1. Create more intimacy and decrease anxiety in the new year by SHARING HUGS! Stimulate your own “bonding Hormone”, oxytocin, for the natural good feeling of friendship and closeness. Hugs, closeness, love, all increase our natural high hormone, making us feel happier, less anxious and ready for relationships! More insight into this interesting hormone: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prefrontal-nudity/201401/the-problems-the-love-hormone
  2. Turn off devices more often and reach for your partners, children and friends! This may lead to more connections in the new Year! Personal connection is becoming more rare as we get caught up in technology but it cannot replace sitting close together and having one on one conversations, laughing and sharing life’s most intimate moments.
  3. Do you know how your partner or loved ones like to receive gifts, appreciation or love? It is most likely that it is different than you. Gary Chapman, in his book, The 5 Love languages, discusses the different types and ways that we as individuals give and receive gifts and he suggests that if we want closeness and intimacy, we need to better understand our partners unique ways of receiving love. Check out his website for more information!

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary D Chapman

51rV-3xwEJL._AA160_The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary D Chapman
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/about/gary-chapman/

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  1. Mend any ruptured relationships if possible or begin to repair with the first step or phone call to those that are truly important in your life. There can be ramifications for your emotional, physical and spiritual health in some cases, if these broken relationships continue. Make a that difficult first step in 2016.
  2. Do something FUN! Kids know how to have fun but as adults, we sometimes forget! Play is key to our emotional success and to couple’s health! Make a plan and plan fun into your new calendar.
  3. Take time for yourself! Recharge, plan, set goals, enjoy, have fun! If we do not make ourselves a priority, we cannot take care of anyone else. I find for some women, this tends to be an even harder task to accomplish, especially with the complicated and overly busy lives that we all lead.
  4. Exercise-15 minutes a day of light cardio type exercise will enhance all aspects of our being. Again, Shawn Achor in the Happiness Advantage discusses this as one of his 5 core skills for changing and making impact on success and happiness.
  5. Meditate- take time-perhaps 10 minutes a day, to begin building up a practice of quieting yourself, to reflect, listen to your inner self, building a practice of just peacefully sitting with what IS.. There are a couple smart apps you can download and do anyplace. Headspace is great for beginners and Insight Timer, on your phone allows you to chose anything from 2 minutes to over an hour long meditations with people all over the world. Begin your practice today.
    https://www.headspace.com/
    https://www.insighttimer.com/
  6. Just do it! Start beginning a practice of implementing new change, strategy, goal or relationship connection to enhance an ongoing relationship a new one. A few steps in a daily practices could produce major lifelong benefits.

 

Happy New Year!
Carolyn Placzek