There are emotional and physical health risks of being too negative! Most people who are highly negative will in fact deny that they are negative! There is an approach that has been proven to work with these types of clients; it is to teach them to be more emotionally intelligent thru the skill of optimism.
This approach, which has been thoroughly researched by Martin Seligman and the researchers at the Resiliency Center of the University of Pennsylvania, looks at the personal benefits of adopting a cognitive explanatory style of “realistic optimism.”* Benefits include better physical health, greater happiness, more productivity at work, and more resiliency during times of stress. Because it is not a “clinical” model, and has been used in industry, educational systems, and even the U.S. military, negative clients may find it easier to accept learning this new skill as part of their treatment. *
You can yourself take the below online quiz or recommend it to your partner or friends t to determine their level of optimism vs. pessimism, by clicking here :
There are several approaches to understanding and changing negative attitudes and outlooks on life and circumstances. First, learning what your level of negativity is in your life and then learning how to adjust that to your unique circumstances and emotional intelligence level and ability. Each individual is always able to change and grow their emotional capability. We are not born a certain way and then doomed for eternity to live out that level of emotional intelligence.
Neuroscience and psychology has proven that we have the ability to change thru Neuroplasticity every day, grow our emotional maturity in new, more positive directions with the help of our loving partners, family and friends and new experiences that teach us to reach out and beyond our normal range of feelings. To expand beyond what we might normally reach for which will allow us to move in a new direction of growth and possibilities. Sometimes we can do this on our own, and sometimes we need the help of a counselor or therapist. Either way, it is a journey worth seeking and a road worth going down. Both the physical and emotional benefits for out way the path of least resistance and staying stuck in negativity.
MA Marriage & Family Therapist