It is extremely difficult for any couple to stand outside their daily interactions so they can begin to look at the chains of events that lead to negative results. A couples therapist can help both partners gain insight into their relationship from an objective perspective, and help to facilitate new ways of positively interacting that lead to new understandings and different results.
Couples therapy is an experience where you are guaranteed to learn something new about yourselves and your relationship. For this learning to happen, you must both be open and willing to examine and express yourselves. Once you learn more about each other's feelings, perspectives, and ways of interacting, you will feel better equipped to make decisions about your relationship, and will have new ways to communicate with each other.
Couples therapy is an investment in having a stronger relationship. Over the long term it may prevent you from splitting up or getting divorced. It may save you from both great emotional and financial costs. You have to consider what your relationship is worth to you and whether or not you want to prioritize spending money on greater relationship satisfaction.
You can begin to implement changes in your relationship right away. After 5 sessions you will have a good initial understanding of the key "cycles" or the dance that you and your partner have established in your relationship. Many couples will see and experience success working within the EFT(emotionally focused therapy model) within 8 to 10 sessions. Depending on how much or if you have experienced any past trauma or abuse in your life the amount of sessions experienced for clients to meet their goals can range from 20 to 24 sessions based on documented research.
Couples therapy is not always covered by health insurance plans. Check with your provider to see if you have coverage. I do not work directly with any insurance providers, but can provide documentation to submit for "out-of-network" reimbursement, if you have this kind of coverage.
When you see a therapist, your treatment record and the information you share is protected by strict confidentiality laws. This means that no one can get access to this information unless you both give your written permission. Certain exceptions do exist, so please read the full conditions of treatment here: Informed Consent to Treatment for Couples