In her book Hold Me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson offers a short quiz to help couples begin to discover their relationship through the attachment lens. Dr. Johnson is the creator and animator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). 75% of couples report increased marital satisfaction with their relationship when doing EFT.
This questionnaire will help you begin to discover how attached you feel towards your spouse. You can complete this on your own, or you and your spouses can each complete the quiz and discuss your answers together to discover how Accessible, Responsive and Engaged the two of you are.
Simply read each statement and circle T for true and F for false.
Give yourself 1 point for each T. If you scored 7 or higher you have a secure bond and you and your spouse are accessible, responsive and engaged; congratulations! Most couples find that either one or both partners scored lower than 7 which indicates you could benefit from a marriage workshop or couples therapy.