Relationships

In many struggling marriages, there is a ghost in the room. It sits between the couple during every argument about the laundry, every forgotten anniversary, and every “simple” conversation that spirals into a blowout. That ghost is often undiagnosed ADHD. As a therapist, I have seen couples on the brink of divorce who believe they have

When couples sit on my office couch, they often bring a silent, heavy frustration with them. More often than not, they frame their struggles around a classic cultural narrative: “He’s a man, so he just shuts down,” or “She’s a woman, so she gets too emotional.” For decades, popular psychology told us that heterosexual men and women are

In the early, intoxicating days of a relationship, we often feel like we’ve found our “missing piece.” If you are a high-energy, fast-talking extrovert, you might be mesmerized by the quiet, grounded presence of an introvert. If you are a reserved, reflective soul, you might be invigorated by someone who breathes life into every room

What are the proverbial ingredients, components of a great relationship? The real traits of individuals in a couple, that actually make it and the partners feel satisfied and fulfilled on most days?  Most people talk about feelings and characteristics such as the following: love, attraction, compatibility, or shared experiences. While these elements can spark and